ways to improve relationship

i had benefit a lot from the Sunday service sermon today
it helps me to know more about how to maintain a relationship


it reminds me about what actually love is
its not a noun,but a verb
its a action comprising envy not;
vaunteth not itself;
not puffed up;
doth not behave itself unseemly;
seeketh not her own;
not easily provoked;
thinketh no evil;
rejoiceth not in iniquity;
beareth all things;
believeth all things;
hopeth all things;
endureth all things.(taken from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7)


what kind of love one has is depends on the fruits it beared
how the fruit taste is depends on the growing process and how one cultivate it
along the line
feeling do comes in
however
feeling will change
therefore its not the greatest of all


there are 5 keys of relationship master

1. compassion
2. kindness
3. humility
4. gentleness
5. patience

compassion doesn't merely means emotional capacities of empathy and sympathy for others

it is also being comfortable with it

its about being with them but do not change them

probably one example will be you can share my sorrow

but please do not expect me to cheer up as though nothing has happen before

as for humility

it is the quality of being modest and respectful

meanwhile being humble

we should be motivating

instead of criticizing 

we point out their best and then only make request

i'm sure this can reduce the possibility of involving in a quarrel

this is because in most argument

it is not that the issue which relevant but the emotions behinds it

lastly concerning patience

practically i can conclude it by quick to listen but slow to speak, slow to anger

by reacting too fast

sometimes we tends to say something we don't meant to

sometimes we tends to response wrongly

we shall know our love by the fruits